So often we think we know people. We make the assumption we understand who they are.
So when something accidentally comes out in a conversation that seems left field, it can change everything about your perspective & leave someone feeling a bit embarrassed or humiliated, depending upon the circumstance.
So when something accidentally comes out in a conversation that seems left field, it can change everything about your perspective & leave someone feeling a bit embarrassed or humiliated, depending upon the circumstance.
Is that why people say:
Be careful of who you talk too.
Don't say anything out loud that you don't want repeated!
Choose your words carefully.
I used to exert myself with those mental notes. Those save-your-ass rules to communication. And you know what I discovered? If you have been following this blog or know me personally, you will know that,
"I'm only responsible for what I say, not for what you understand."
AFFIRMATION #1- Don't Assume
Isn't this reflective of the Golden Rule & judge not lest ye be judged?
This statement rang so loud & true I had to step back, turn on 4 Non-Blondes, "What's Up" and Indigo Girls, "Closer to Fine", and listen to them over & over. WHY? Because even to this day, after 11 years as a business owner, it is still being suggested to me to apply for a open position at so & so. Because I have been told by them I am truly not a business owner & I should put this silliness away & go work for someone. That the legitimacy for me, as a female, is to go work FOR SOMEBODY, because I am not a business owner.
Until recently, those pokes & prods & jabs have bruised my ribs...until I decided to get out of the way & not take it. I decided I am not going to live my whole life feeling stupid because of someone else's stupidity. Why the hell would I ever not have enough worth to retain something so valuable? Why the hell would I allow that to happen? TO give away such power within myself?
BECAUSE, it started when I was little & didn't ever let up...there was always someone to simply suggest what I should be doing.
I recently had my tarot done & basically she said that my whole life I have been pushed down because of my talent...but the talent is bigger than their ability to push it down & I am now stuck in the could-a, would-a, should-a cycle because of it.
BOOM BABY!! That's what I have to say! I am hear to tell the world...
I'm a fish who can climb a tree!!
AFFIRMATION #2- Wisdom of Elders (well most elders..)
STOP LAUGHING!!
If fashion still defined corsets are common articles of undergarments, I guarantee you I could do this same thing! And my husband would LOVE strapping me into a corset...that's all I'm gonna say on that subject.
So I'm the chick with the big tits. Yeah for me. My friends used to hand me their beers to stuff into my shirt when we went to the movies..."here Lizzi, you can hide a six pack in there!"
And when I was nursing my children, people would laugh & say, "what do you do with all the extra milk?"
Or, can you see your feet? What do you think moron...
Then you have the booth issue in the family restaurants...let's just say we take bets every time we go to sit down, on how far onto the table they will land. "Pardon me honey, can we move the table or switch sides?"
Oh, and the, "You don't run do you?" Not unless I want to knock my ass out I don't!
Or when you meet someone new (that's both male & female), and your talking, and...it's... like...Hello!...Hey!... You-Who!....I know they are ginormous, but I'm up here!
HOW is any of this an affirmation?
Simple...
I walk around this planet with this person inside this ginormous body! I mean, unless I have to squeeze my ass into a waiting room seat or more importantly a booth in a family restaurant (as previously noted!), I am this skinny woman running around in this obese body. It's not until I see myself in something reflective (I don't recommend door knobs by-the-way--just keep walking), that I realize...Holy Balls! Who is that person staring back at me?!
My girlfriends who haven't seen me in awhile, will usually right off the bat comment, "they keep getting bigger!" They have this minor envy, as if having a shelf & near 40 pounds hanging from your chest were a blessing. I know there are many women who pay exorbanant amounts of money to add this, so called luxury, to their bodies. They do this as if having a huge chest will bring them something they are seeking; respect, attention, envy & God-only knows what else. Tomato-Tamato, Potato-Patato, Size DDD-Size I WISH MINE WERE THAT BIG! We all respond differently.
Here's the deal...I've never seen my breasts as an ornament or something I can leverage for power. They are one part of my beauty as a woman & have a specific purpose. I was blessed with the ability to have precious time with all three of my children from the moment they were born into this world. To sustain them with the purest & most perfect food they will ever have taken into their bodies. My children are very healthy & skirt many of the common illnesses that travel throughout the school systems & general public. I would like to attribute that to me having breast feed them beyond their first birthdays. Breastfeeding in itself subjected me to some pretty harsh criticism & a few public confrontations, to which I always prevailed! So for me, it's a two-fold reality. My breast are extremely large & instead of allowing that to ruin my self-worth, I embrace them & find clean humor in it--much healthier, don't you agree? AND I have precious memories of those private moments only shared by a mother & her nursing children. So in either case, your opinions or judgments could easily sway lesser of a women...but fortunately for me, it has made me a better woman. These are deep convictions & some basic strengths of my character...as you can see, easily misjudged.
